Advice from a real bride to those who are planning their weddings currently.
It has now been over two months since our wedding and we are still reliving any moment possible! Our wedding was exactly what we wanted, but during the planning process I did SO much research to make sure that it seemed perfect. You would think that working in the wedding industry would give you so much insight, but since I’m typically a photographer, I just get to document all the pretty details that these beautiful brides have worked so hard for. I’m grateful that I now have experience on both sides of making a wedding come together.
Advice From a Real Bride:
- HIRE AN EVENT PLANNER. I’m pretty sure that this is everyone’s first piece of advice and now I know why. It took planning a wedding by myself to clearly understand how valuable event planners are. If you’re like me, you’re probably saying to yourself: “I don’t need an event planner. I can do this on my own and save money. WRONG. You’ve never planned a wedding before so how should you know? Event planners will help you focus on the proper details while you can focus on the other things like where Uncle Bob and Aunt Sally sit so they don’t sit next to cousins Don and Linda. OR what order is the wedding party supposed to walk in by? OR the big tricky task to tackle: timelines. Event planners will help you with it all.
- SAY YES TO HELP. It was clear that I inherited my mother’s stubbornness. About 3/4 of the way through planning our wedding I was frustrated why I didn’t ask for help… wedding favors, signs, escort cards displays. Our families live 2-4 hours away so there were limited things that they could help with. But, bridesmaids and groomsmen? Put them to work! They would be thrilled to say yes (okay, maybe more the ladies than the gents) but still!
- FIND A DRESS WITH EASE. Unless your have six months to plan a wedding, my advice from a real bride to you, is that it’s okay to drag out dress shopping. I crammed in two full days of dress shopping with my mom, step-mom and my sister. We probably went to EIGHT bridal salons in TWO days. Bad decision. Not to mention allllll the dresses I tried on within those two days. Even though I had picked out a style prior to shopping, trying on dresses made me realize that I needed a different type of dress for my body type. If I went dress shopping again, I would make an appointment for one bridal salon on one day. Remember that dress shopping is a fun, relaxing day and such an exciting part of your wedding! Don’t forget the champagne!
- DON’T SAVE THINGS UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE. When you are one month out from your wedding, your excitement starts to turn into jitters and “ahh-its-finally-here!” feelings. Embrace it! Enjoy it! Have fun getting your nails and hair done versus feeling like you HAVE to get your nails and hair done because you still have things to do. The last month is part of the most exciting time so soak it up!
- AT THE END OF IT ALL, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. If I have learned anything valuable from working in the wedding industry, it’s that we get too wrapped up in all the wedding details. We forget that your wedding is about marrying your best friend! The person you want to spend the rest of your life with creating memories that will last a life time. Yes, it’s fun to go over the top with decorations and themes to get published on wedding blogs. But at the end of it all, we’re all gathered together because of love.
I hope my advice from a real bride was helpful! If any of you brides have more questions, I’d be delighted to help! DM me on Instagram @halleylutz or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.